The Roadblock of Forgiveness

By Linda Gilden

For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.  Matthew 6:14 NIV

Anyone who has any kind of relationship at some point will feel rejected.

Myra’s favorite week of the year was the week the entire family went to the beach. She loved her family and waking up with everyone under the same roof was special.

For a second time, Myra’s son-in-law, Garth, decided his family wasn’t going to join the extended family. “It’s better for our family to go alone,” he had said. The sting of rejection became greater for Myra every time she saw Garth.

When beach time came, Myra went to tell the grandchildren good bye. “Have fun at the beach,” she said, tears brimming.

On the way home, Myra realized it was not even the rejection that kept her feeling so low when these family times occurred. It was her lack of forgiveness. Myra could not control the actions of her son-in-law but she could control her reaction.

Myra had never even thought about the forgiveness factor. She had focused on the deep hurt of rejection she experienced every time she looked at her son-in-law. Myra needed to forgive Garth for rejecting her so they could move their relationship forward.

Sometimes we think the reason for rifts in relationships is because of something another person has done when often the greater chasm has been caused by lack of our own forgiveness. We need to let it go. We need to forgive the other person and ask God’s guidance in the relationship. We need to be a vessel for His love to flow through us no matter what. We need to eliminate the roadblock of forgiveness.

Lord, help us to forgive.

 

Linda Gilden, an award-winning author of over a dozen books, speaker, and personality and communications trainer, sometimes struggles with forgiveness. But she knows that God will help her forgive and restore relationships because that is His plan. Visit her at www.lindagilden.com

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